Bitterness can stop you from living the best life you possibly can. It has the power of keeping you where you are but making you feel you don’t deserve the life you desire to live. Being bitter or harboring feelings of resentment toward others can harm your overall health and work. It keeps you thinking “I didn’t deserve that” “I wish you could also experience what you put me through” and makes it impossible for you to wish anything good for the person who hurt you.
Being angry and resentful is normal especially when wronged. Therefore, do not beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. However, the most important thing to bear in mind is that holding on to such feelings can hinder your progress and stop you from realizing your full potential.
Bitterness prevents you from aiming high and reaching your dreams because it keeps you focusing on the wrong that was done as well as the person who wronged you.
Thoughts of anger, pain, resentment, and sometimes self-pity gain the upper hand in everything you do. You daily reflect on the incident and how you didn’t deserve what happened to you and end up giving room to feelings of self-doubt that end up lowering your self-esteem.
Understand the power of forgiveness in reaching your goals and living a happy life that you are satisfied with. Understand that forgiving someone isn’t about them. It’s about you. It’s about your health, peace, and joy. Learn to let go of the hurt and anger. Try to forgive and refuse to hold on to resentment because it will keep you from attaining your aims and living the life you want.
Letting go of bitterness isn’t easy because you know you didn’t deserve what you went through and that you were not in the wrong. The thought of forgiving someone who put you through all the pain and perhaps trauma you experienced is difficult. However, it can be done. Once you acknowledge and accept that forgiveness is more about you, your growth as well as peace of mind and less about the offender, letting go of bitterness can be achievable.
Recognize that you have what it takes to forgive, move on from the incident, and eliminate whatever hurt or bitterness you feel inside. It begins with desiring to forget the pain and forgive. It begins with deciding that you will no longer hold on to feelings of resentment because you have goals to accomplish, relationships to grow, dreams to fulfill, and a purposeful life to live.
Remember that your power to forgive lays in embracing the fact that bitterness hinders your progress and keeps you from flying and let it go. Eliminating those negative emotions and thoughts that you shelter and replacing them with positive ones will help you heal faster, get over the hurt little by little, and forgive more. It puts you in a position where you can say “I am strong enough to forgive” and “I forgive you.”
Letting go of bitterness is the key to attaining seemingly unattainable goals.
Do you often find yourself thinking “This is too ambitious” or “There is no way I can achieve that?” If Yes, then realize that such thoughts are a result of sheltering anger and bitterness, as well as failing to forgive. Bitterness makes it impossible for you to reach your highest goals in life because it leads to self-doubt and self-pity. It lowers your self-confidence and demotivates you from acting on your goals or doing what needs to be done. Therefore, let it go.
Understand that no goal is impossible to reach and no dream impossible to fulfill. You can reach whatever aims you have and attain seemingly unattainable goals by recognizing the significance of letting go of the bitterness you have in achieving success in any area of your life.
1. “I don’t deserve to live like this.” Knowing the negative impact that bitterness has on your overall wellbeing and understanding that your life doesn’t have to be controlled by what happened in the past will enable you to forgive and let go of resentment.
2. “I can forgive you.” Recognize that there is peace in forgiving someone even when you feel they don’t deserve it or when they don’t change or show remorse. Practice saying “I forgive you” in front of the mirror and tell the person who wronged you that you forgive him even when he doesn’t sincerely ask for forgiveness. This will help you heal, focus on your goals, live peacefully, and enable you to accomplish whatever you are aiming for. Know that you are strong enough to forgive because you survived whatever you went through.
3. “I won’t allow resentment to stop me from living peacefully.” Recognize that your peace is more important than holding on to bitterness and choose to let it go. Keep reminding yourself that your goal is to live peacefully, happily, and purposefully and replace anger with cheerfulness.